Venus Ketu Relationships – Healing Wounded Love

A major contribution of Vedic Astrology is its statement of
your incarnational life meaning: why you are here.

And this blog post addresses the issue of when you have Ketu (South Node) conjunct Venus in your Vedic birth chart – and its implications for your love relationship.


And please read this post together with my related post: Venus Chiron relationships Healing Wounded Love.

But first of all, I’d like to understand your Venus Ketu conjunction in the context of your incarnational life purpose:

This is stated in terms of the position of the Nodes of the Moon in your Vedic natal chart.
The Nodes of the Moon are the intersection points in space of the orbit of the Moon around the Earth with the apparent orbit of the Sun around the Earth. There are thus two Nodes: the North Node and the South Node.

The South Node is called Ketu
. Ketu is what we come in with from past life. Ketu is where in terms of life circumstances we will find that everything will dissolve. Ketu is our past lives and our past life karmas and skills. This experience can terrify, but Ketu dissolves that which needs to die in terms of our need to be reborn and go forward to meet our spiritual destiny in this incarnation. Ketu is sometimes depicted as the ‘occupying army’, i.e. those life areas we have already ‘conquered’ in earlier lives, whereas Rahu is depicted as the advancing army, i.e. those territories we need to advance into in this life.

The North Node is called Rahu: Rahu is where we in terms of life circumstances will put our obsessive, instinctual driven energy of ambition. Rahu is the call of our Future. Our obsessional drive can be dark and destabilizing but the experience of it can impel us to see God, and that we are not cut off from God but actually one with God (and one with everyone else). We never reach our Rahu unless we purify our experience.

The Nodes are actually demons, because they are the eclipse points and they even have the power to devour the luminaries: the Sun and the Moon, but – because Vedic astrology is Tantric – everything is inherently connective to the Divine: even adverse circumstances, even what could be called ‘bad’, but only if we perceive these difficult states in the right way. Anciently, the Nodes were depicted as a dragon. The Dragon’s Head is the North Node called Rahu; the Dragon’s Tail is the South Node called Ketu. What is the spiritual gift of these demons?

In Vedic Astrology, the Nodes of the Moon are interpreted in terms of the following four factors:

  1. The Houses that the Nodes fall in in your natal chart. This is the most important factor for assessing your incarnational life purpose. The Nodes are always opposite each other in the heavens, in the chart. Obviously, the Houses are time of birth sensitive, so if you don’t know your correct time of birth, counting Houses from the Ascendant created by a wrong time of birth will give wrong results, though one way round this is to treat the position of the Moon as your First House (this can be nearly as good depending on certain astronomical circumstances).
  2. The Signs that the Nodes Fall in in your natal chart. Please note that Vedic Astrology does use the 12-sign zodiac familiar from western astrology, but the two zodiacs are actually 23 degrees apart. Your planets may therefore be shown as being in a different sign in Vedic Astrology from western astrology. The zodiac used by western astrology is known as the Tropical Zodiac; the zodiac used by Vedic Astrology is called the Sidereal Zodiac.
  3. Any Planets which conjunct your North or South Node
  4. The Lunar Signs which your Nodes fall in in your natal chart. In addition to the familiar 12 signs of the Lunar Zodiac, Vedic astrology also uses a far more ancient Lunar Zodiac of 27 signs, which is an immensely powerful pointer to the true nature of your magical and dream time self.

Your incarnational life purpose is thus assessed in terms of the position of the Nodes of the Moon in your Vedic natal chart, and the wound to love occurs when Ketu is conjunct Venus, or when Venus is square the Nodal Axis thus indicating a ‘missed step’ that was not got right or completed in past life, and this arises inescapably in this life:

Ketu conjunct Venus:

If you have Ketu conjunct (or square) Venus in your Vedic birth chart, then you have incarnated into this life to experience problems in love – and to solve them.

Typically, you could attract wounded partners, partners who carry much emotional woundedness. You could choose a partner who has been damaged and whose acceptability is not along more normal lines.

Typically, you may have experienced rejection in love in a past life, and so you yourself reject your partner over and over again, to get in there first, and seek (futilely) to avoid the pain of being rejected yourself – Again!

So, typically you may reject partner over and over again

You carry unresolved past life relationship issue or script into this life.

And so, you need to develop the needed perception of what your karmic script is, heal it, and do the relationships work, otherwise it will arise again and again and again in this life, in relationship after relationship after relationship.

You will discard your loved one first, because you fear you would be rejected first otherwise!

Another alternative is that you may reject the ideal of marriage and only accept open partnership, or solo life. You may endlessly experiment with your sexuality. You may only accept ‘spiritual marriage’. You may become the selfless carer working for social causes. You may be unable to easily find enjoyment and satisfaction in the basic things of life. You may not be able to do the needed normal give and take and negotiation in relationship, especially if Venus is in the third house in your Vedic birth chart. If Ketu is in the fourth house, the lack of value from your mothering will need to be healed. If in 7th House in your Vedic birth chart then you need to learn to stop being so over-assertive and ‘Me First’ from your Rahu North node in the first house.

You may be more in love with creativity or with mysticism or the occult. And then wonder why love gets so neglected.

If the conjunction is in Mercury-ruled signs or Nakshatras, then you could need to learn to be less critical. If Venus is burned by the Sun (Combust or in Vedic Leo or in bad Avastha score from your Sun), then your value will have been harmed by authoritarian upbringing.

Ketu is about illusion – and the dissolving of it. You could therefore be blind in perceiving and choosing your love interests. This dooms you to disappointment and disillusion.

Essentially of course, Ketu the South Node dissolves. But it ideally dissolves so that we can see the spiritual meaning and message in each dissolution in our life. So, the ideal in Ketu-Venus relationship is to find perception that can lead to growth, healing and empowerment.

I do offer relationship readings: you can book a reading with charts and optionally with reports, lasting one hour, ninety minutes or two hours. See:

I also teach a relationship astrology course. The course can be Vedic relationship astrology only. OR it can be Vedic astrology and western astrology combined. But for this course you do need to know the basics of Vedic Astrology:

My wife Maggie Pashley offers some very relevant healing work with problems in love:
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