Manage Power Plays and Arguments in Relationships and Heal Them Pt 1

The Part 1 video tells you about a fraught and powerful relationship conflict and powerplay energy that is arising late May to June 2023. These issues that are arising are actually so crucial to know about and watch out for, understand and HEAL – in doing so we can open to love, find love, and become a Power Couple.

Also see my part 2 Video and Blog. But I am writing and videoing here a general post about understanding and managing rows, conflicts, arguments and power plays in relationship, and what to look for, for guidance in your birth charts. I offer some helpful quick pointers in Part 2.

But actually I start with Part 1, which is prompted by the Astrology of Now: This is the Astrology of the end of May and early June 2023.

The two current Astrological energies have especially promoted me to write this post now, at the end of May 2023, the two prompting energies, are as follows:

A Pluto opposition to Venus is gathering at this time.

and also

A Lilith square to an exact Mercury/Uranus conjunction is gathering now.

Let’s look at these, then go on to the Part 2 video and blog about how Astrology can help you identify your personality and relationship scripts.

Part 1: The Astrology of Now

So, as Part 1 of this post, let’s look first of all at the present astrology of the very end of May 2023, and how it will unfold into the first half of June 2023, and then I will go on to refer to the issue of scripts, arguments and power plays in relationships more generally: how Astrology can help you identify yours – and how the identification can bring awareness and help you to Healing.

So, first of all, speaking on 27th May 2023, note that there’s a real challenge to manage our communications and arguments in relationship now.

There’s a super-important call to grow to better understand and manage our relationship scripts.

And there’s such a profound call to understand and manage our innate power play issues.

So the present heart of the matter is TWO BIG planetary energy combinations that are gathering now:


Pluto opposition Venus. Pluto is retrograde at 6 Vedic Capricorn now at the time of this video on May 27th, and the Pluto Venus opposition is exact by 4th June when Venus arrives at 5 Cancer.


A Lilith square Mercury/Uranus aspect is developing now:

Lilith is square Mercury now (with Lilith at 21 Vedic Cancer and Mercury at 17 Vedic Aries), but by 4th June Lilith is square the newly formed Mercury/Uranus conjunction at 26 Aries.

But it’s also very important to note that there are thee big twists to this tale now, in May/June 2023:

Jupiter is conjunct Rahu North Node all this time in Aries:
Jupiter conjunct Rahu magnifies things (but also giving chances for insights to come).


Ketu South Node is still transiting Libra the sign of Relationship:
This has been really forcing us to feel our Relationship Karmas and habits from past life and from the past in this life for a year now.


Saturn is stationary at 12 Vedic Aquarius all this time, turning Retrograde on 17th June at the start of 13 Aquarius:

Note that the slower a planet’s motion in the heavens, the deeper that planet carves its karmic energy into our consciousness and the events in our lives.

Saturn is now impelling us to tie up loose ends, to finish unfinished business now, and to fulfill the karmas that run in our particular life this time.

So if your have natal planets in Aquarius or Leo, or if you have Saturn aspecting your natal Venus or Mars or Mercury, you will find you have little choice but to feel Saturn’s imperative now in the areas of love, sex and relationship and communication – and hopefully grow to fulfill it, and hopefully let go of patterns you just should no longer live by.

OK, So, let’s get back to look somewhat deeper at the two main issues now:

Issue 1:
Pluto opposition Venus in the heavens:

The first thing to say is that this is very sexual. The sexual urge can become much more compelling, even frantic.

Pluto is opposition Venus by 4th June, but note that at the time of writing, on 27th May, Pluto is still opposition Mars (that opposition was exact on 21st May – steamy indeed!!!!! Pluto – Mars – Venus combination!

But the bigger dimension of Pluto opposition Venus is the use of POWER in relationship.

We will be offered lots of revelations as to the power issues that are going on between the two of us.

We mustn’t handle these in explosive couples’ warfare.

We must ‘break’ if conflict flares – then join again in loving sharing and awareness development.

We must recognize the scripts of each of us as to power plays and power-related repetitive habits, and ‘cast a skin’.

See my earlier post about becoming a Power Couple by casting negative skin after negative skin (like two snakes lying side by side, as it were, where snakes’ or ‘serpent energy’ has most anciently signified ‘death and rebirth’ (and magic happenings) see that post:
you can go to:

The post I’m talking about is the third one down the fascinating list:
Becoming a Power Couple in Relationship:
Pt. 1:
Pt. 2:

Leave behind the negative manifestations of Pluto energy, including those you grew up with. Realize instead that Pluto’s higher meaning is Descent to the Underworld, from which like Persephone, we can come into our fuller, proper power.

Issue 2:
Lilith square the Uranus/Mercury Conjunction:

Avoid ‘capping’ or ‘tantruming’ and failing to stand in proper power. Stay committed to strip yourselves of your negative scripts, and let the love shine and grow, now.

With Pluto opposition Venus upcoming and Chiron the Wounded Healer square Venus and Jupiter conjunct Rahu at the start of this period there will be revelations offered to the two of you.

And your communication scripts will be highlighted by the growing Lilith square Mercury/Uranus energy.

Lilith is all about material that is stuffed down into our unconscious and our shadow side, and Lilith includes our ‘buried wild side’ which must come out if you are to be full and whole, but obviously come out in an ethical, loving and aware way.

Agree to move away from the intense dramas, the threats and the tantrums.

Agree to identify and learn about your relationship-negative scripts. Bring the demons to the light and heal them mutually.

Agree to find the space to grow love. Leave behind any history you may have as to bad uses of the divine Mercury principle.

OK, please now go on to the Part 2 video and blog post all about: How Astrology can help us Identify and Heal our Behavioral, communication and Relationship Scripts:

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