All about Librans – Oct 2010

Sun is in Libra this Month: Here is a prediction for Libra for October 2010. This is followed by an in-depth study of all you Librans!

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September should have been a dynamic and successful month for many Librans. The urge to succeed continues until at least October 17th, when your energies may turn more inward. But you should be becoming steadily clearer about the personal changes you need to see brought in. You have the gift of gab. Your improved communications skills will serve you well. However, from the 7th forward, others are not always picking up the right signals from you, so be as clear as you can in your dealings. The Full Moon on the 22nd brings “eyes wide open” energy to your close relationships. You have great energy for making money this month, but beware rash expenditure.





Ruler: Venus

The Sun is in detriment in Libra

Libra rules the 7th House

It is associated with the kidneys and the soft organs of the stomach.

Ruled by Aphrodite, the Goddess of Love, yet in the mentalistic air sign, Librans seek order balance and harmony.

They try to be agreeable and will be the glove that fits the other’s hand in relationship – but in so doing, they very often lose themselves.

They are also insincere (I mean diplomatic) and Cardinal: so they try to push others to do things by using the formula ‘wouldn’t it be a good idea if we did … ‘. They get very angry if you don’t fall in with their plans (or are they manipulations?).

Librans try to please everyone through diplomacy, so they can shift ground a lot and lie and be indecisive.

Love triangles are the curse of ‘well meaning’ – ‘I only wanted to love you’ Librans.

There is a big risk that their indecisiveness will shade into simply waiting for things to happen.

Librans enjoy socialising. They bring grace, charm and congeniality to every situation; they love to create a contrived dramatic presence; many of their entertainment initiatives are ruined by being too ‘set piece’. Their efforts to create ‘social beauty’ or harmony can veer into the insincere and they end up grieving because everyone is pleased and loved except for them. And because the Libran has lost himself – well: who can love someone whose identity is unknown?

They love beauty in nature, art, music and literature. They like elegance and money – and will even sell themselves in relationship to have these. They are ambitious, and will move forcefully to create a life situation where they can enjoy Libran qualities and things. They require domestic security and a home they can be proud of. They like to keep their lives orderly, controlled and efficient – though this in itself can be contrary to their ethic of Love. They are patient and tolerant unless pushed too far.

They are sympathetic to the needs of children. They have an interest in Tradition: and this will be reflected in their home.

They are mentally very adaptable: they give the benefit of the doubt and seek to see the rationale of every personality, situation or culture – even to the point of losing what they themselves really feel about these, and becoming ungrounded. This leaves them very changeable. They have a very intuitive perceptiveness, and can weigh up people and situations in a flash, as they develop a repertoire of mentalistic paradigms about personal or social situations. They are very impressionable and sensitive and easily wounded. – and can feel very misunderstood – after all, all they were trying to do was to please! They view reality with distaste and insist that the rest of the world adapt to their romantic fantasizing

They are humanitarian and sympathetic, but their self-preoccupation and mentalism precludes deep empathetic connection. It is vital for Librans to understand that they have periodical need to be reclusive: and their nearest and dearest must understand this too.  They need to be alone (occasionally) to restore their energy and re-assemble their ‘social mask’. This need is often reflected in periodical changes of appearance.

Librans tend to develop a philosophy of life as they mature: which they then seek to apply to their situations and to others. They are able to translate intellectual ideas into accessible forms for others. Physical or mundane work does NOT appeal to Libra. Librans have a passionate belief in fairness – in relationships, in money transactions, in social issues, &c.

A Libran will manipulate people by trying to use charm: At its ‘best’, it amounts to a sort of ‘ethical blackmail’: “If I am beautiful and fair and just, I expect the rest of the world to be the same.” At it’s worst it is the parent charmingly manipulating her child to conform to the parental concept of balance and harmony. It’s presented as being about wanting to make the world a better place. The risk is that the Libran may be misunderstood and seen as unworthy of trust or a hypocrite, whereas what he is trying to do is stand up for Balance and harmony while wanting to be liked and manipulate the other towards the ideal of beauty and love.

As a result, Librans make very diplomatic counsellors. But a Libran can be two-faced, and flatter those he hates or finds too direct, seeking to ‘agree’ for the sake of harmony and peace, hating quarrels and wanting to use his considerable power to win the other over.  He does care and is interested in the other’s ideas. Like Capricorn, Aries and Cancer, Libra is a Cardinal sign: so must have a goal to be working towards, otherwise he can feel lost. A shadow response to this is to create and live by artificial goals, for an illusory sense of meaning (Libra is afraid that underneath, there’s nothing and no one there).

Librans suffer seriously through not being able to express their emotions honestly (because this would contradict their notions of the Good, the True and the Beautiful). This creates repression and health problems. It also creates conflicts of sensitivity. It leaves the Libran with guilt.

Sometimes the Libran will feel driven to making secret snipes to the people who he is trying to be pleasant to. There can be serious problems from pent-up, unacknowledged anger. The irony is that Libra, the lover of Truth is emotionally dishonest: it takes years (if ever) for him to adjust to the rougher side of life. Libra has a great problem in being, or doing, what he sees as ‘selfish’.

Libra consults everybody first, adjusting his decision-making to get everybody else’s co-operation (and probably losing himself in the process). Librans often work through issues by talking to others: thinking through crystallizes issues in conversation. Often he will work out what he really thinks afterwards! Libra’s great goal is to heal (balance) the conflicts in his life, mirroring the ideal that exists in his mind.



Male Librans tend to be yin; women Librans tend to be yang – this is because Libra is the sign of Balance.

Guided by head rather than heart, as you lack total trust in your ability to be emotionally realistic, you are a theorist about love. The power of your feelings can shock you, so you can be bad at intimacy. You lose emotional control in your love affairs – so these often dramatically transform you. Romance can become stormy, because of your conflict between wanting to make the other happy, and your own emotional needs. You are probably more able to apply harmony to others, than in your own passionate relationships. Following your idiosyncratic needs/desires can make your partner feel either ignored or dominated (or both, alternately). You tend to an idealistic/unrealistic vision of the perfect relationship.

This can lead you to compare your partner unfavourably.

Disharmonious relationships conflict with your deepest needs: Librans hate scenes.

Libra’s choice in love can lead to considerable difficulties and confusion: Love Triangles. These can lead to catastrophic emotional and financial dilemmas.

Libra can be characterized by:-

loss of contact with the instinctual (Teiresias killed the female serpent)

loss of manhood


distaste for aspects of the bodily

A Libran can be the enemy of his own sexuality

A Libran is a perfectionist in forms and theories of love

Libran’s rarely remain unmarried for long out of a natural delicate quality of stylization of partnership – and Libran’s can’t bear to be alone.

Librans can move from relationship to relationship in an endless search for perfection (or from job to job).

Libra needs a partner s/he can feel confident in working towards his goal. It’s the ‘Royal We”.

Libra needs to learn to discuss his love problems: not just emote them.

Libra loathes being driven into a fight or a scene, therefore becomes more and more diplomatic and dishonest to avoid harrowing repetition of arguments.

Libra can spend ages discussing how a relationship can be adjusted – but he actually has small capacity to act on this!

A Libran must feel you are being fair to him.

He is child-like, with powerful emotions which are usually repressed, therefore s/he must be coaxed into trusting his emotions.

Even introverted Librans need someone to share dreams with.

Librans are very companionable, so may not suit the independent type of partner.


Librans enjoy group involvements, and need them if they are not to die. These groups will especially be of a socially beneficial aspect, or perhaps fighting for other’s rights, or to do with love or beauty. Librans rejuvenate in company. They must have it.


Getting everyone to fall in love with you (M. Bovary, Scarlett O’Hara, Cassanova).

The deceitful charmer

The ‘coy maiden’, playing ‘hard to get’.

The feelingless lover.

Playing people off against each other.

Fuelled by insecurity and craving for approval, they play these games with everyone – and not just for sex.

A Libran must experience and transcend his shadow.

Questioning his/her own sexuality, often due to identifying sympathetically with the opposite sex.

Can feel dissociated from his/her own sexuality

Librans very often are not comfortable with their own bodies: they need to be made to be felt to be loveable.

They can be more comfortable discussing love than showing it.


Libran men have taste, vanity, appreciation for beauty, culture and the arts: a lover of harmony and addicted to relationship. They like ornamentation and beautification. His house will be tasteful, even luxurious and comfortable. They can be very extravagant for style or beauty. He is generous.

Libran men are romantic. They appreciate the feminine psyche, often in a trans-sexual way. They get on better with women than with men. There can be estrangement from their own biology or bi-sexuality or doubts about the focus of their sexuality.  (Teiresias was made a woman after ‘killing the Mother’ – see the Mythology, below).

Libran men are a sucker for a pretty face or a woman who is suffering. They can thus easily be fooled or hurt. He hates to be alone – and will rarely be out of partnership for long. His need for relationship can be valuable as it potentially grounds him. Libran males mature physically very young, and can thus be thrust into issues of sexual power before they are mature enough to cope. They can’t bear an unromantic partner. His dreams must never be crushed. He likes intellectual companionship. He can retreat into his head and get too abstract. He can reject bodily defects.

Shadow Libran can ‘play hard to get’, can be Don Juan.


Libran women are quite different from Libran men in the issue of gender-stereotyping. Libran women can be quite male, due to the issue of balance within the sign. Like Maggie Thatcher, the Libran woman may be clearly the ‘only man in the Cabinet’.

Libran women usually have a strong intellectual drive, but with tact. They often have the gift of clear sight, logic, fine intellect, the gift of strategy, statesmanship and organisation. They get on better with men than with women as friends. They are good at groups and organisations.

Also a lover of beauty, style, elegance, this is sometimes projected into the world of career and ideas. She will tend to repress her emotions and can’t spontaneously deal with emotions. Romance makes her feel safer.

Some Libran women are unashamedly a bundle of contradictions – others retreat into the intellect. She must be accepted for both.


The scales are far-removed from the instinctual kingdom. The noble faculty of balance and reason evolved later. In pre-Hellenistic astrology, Scorpio once encompassed Libra, but the Greeks in particular split off the portion of the sky occupied by the claws of the Scorpion, defining that as Libra and associating it with Astrea’s scales. It was seen as a point of balance: an Equinox sign – tipping towards the collective. Libran judgement rests on careful assessment and reflection: it evolved away from Scorpionic ‘Eye for an eye’ vindictiveness.  Archetypically, this principle is embodied in Maat and Athene.

Judgement is forced upon a Libran.


Paris is a Libran hero. Paris was prince of Bronze-Age Troy of the Homeric Iliad (Ilium was the Greek name for Troy). Eris the Goddess of strife threw a golden apple inscribed ‘For the Fairest’ at the feet of the assembled Goddesses Hera (she was the patriachally-suppressed Queen of Olympia, correctly dutiful and bitterly unhappy wife of philandering Sky-Father Zeus), Athene (Goddess of Wisdom and of War) and Aphrodite (the Goddess of Love). The three Goddesses immediately fell into bitter quarrel as to who deserved to have the golden apple. They involved the other Olympians – and soon the whole Pantheon was dragged into the conflict. As the dispute dragged on, the three contestants happened to see Paris, son of Priam, King of Troy: a beautiful young man, married to a sylph-like woman, a creature of the mountains called OEnone. Paris was tending his father’s flocks on the slope of Mount Ida.

The Goddesses threw him the apple and bade him choose between them. They offered him bribes:

Clad in regal robes and crowned as Queen of Heaven, Hera offered him vastness of wealth beyond all measure and power beyond the dreams of man, if he named her as the Fairest.

Severe in her armour, Athene offered him supreme wisdom, if he named her as the Fairest.

But Athene drew near, her eyes blue as sea water, her hair like spun gold, with flesh soft and honey-sweet – and offered him the love of the most beautiful woman on Earth …

so, Paris, being a Libran (and despite the fact that he was married to OEnone) chose the love of the most beautiful woman and named Aphrodite as the most beautiful of all the Olympian Goddesses.

The other two Goddesses withdrew towering with rage and vowed to destroy Paris and ruin his life and waste his children.

Then Aphrodite carried Paris to far-off Sparta (leaving OEnone to wander the slopes of Ida for ever, wrecked by grief and longing for death. At Sparta, Paris found Helen, the most beautiful of mortal women. She took one look at Paris and under the enchantment of Aphrodite, fell hopelessly in love with him, and left her husband, Menelaus, King of Sparta and eloped to Troy.

Enraged at the abduction, Menelaus called together all the kingdoms of the Hellenes and vowed to recover his wife and burn Troy to the ground. An army was gathered under the leadership of High King Agamemnon and a huge fleet set to sea to encompass revenge.

Of Helen’s beauty it was thus asked: “Is this the face that launched a thousand ships and burned the topless towers of Ilium?” The Hellenes laid siege to Troy for ten years, but the city was eventually captured by the ruse of the Wooden Horse. Troy was burned to the ground and her men were slaughtered; her women were raped and dragged away to be the slaves of the conquering Hellenes. Paris and his children by Helen lay dead. And Helen was later found in the ruins by the troops of her husband Menelaus to whom she then promised to remain a loyal and dutiful wife, and she sailed away with him, back to Greece, to be Queen of Sparta.


Teiresias, too, was a Libran Hero. Teiresias saw two serpents coupling on Mount Kyllene, but he drew too near and they turned to attack him, and in resisting them, he killed the female. Hera thus ordained that he become a woman, and he remained a woman for ten years and became a harlot, experiencing all the sexual intimacies and ecstasies that are possible for a woman. At the end of his ‘sentence’, he was returned to being a man.

But he too was later called upon to make a judgement: Zeus and Hera were arguing about whether the male or the female had more pleasure from the sexual act: each felt dissatisfied with the other, that their sex was unsatisfying. They therefore turned to Teiresias to exercise judgement on the issue, as he was uniquely qualified to say. He said that woman had the greater sexual bliss by a ration of nine to one over men. Hera therefore struck him blind, because she said she wasn’t getting any. But Zeus rewarded him with a seven-fold life span, understanding of the language of the birds and the gift of prescience. If you remember it was Teiresias who was called upon to prophesy in the matter of the curse of OEdipus.

The theme of this myth is that great suffering is felt by Libra who is forced to choose. Life seems unfair to a Libran. He has superior insight of the Realm of Opposites, of the essence of the opposite gender and of the future – but he has to pay for his gift. Libran’s often destroy their own lives and others by being centred in a conflict concerning love or beauty.


A third Libra myth: Aphrodite ordered Eros to kill Psyche who was said to be even more beautiful than her. But Eros fell in love with Psyche, as soon as he saw her. He hid her away and came to make love to her at nights. he told her to remain blindfold whenever he came to her, so that she wouldn’t realise who he was. Psyche later disobeyed this request. Eros flew off: the love was ruined when his reality was revealed.

Psyche then made the fatal error of praying to Aphrodite to have Eros back (not knowing the background!) Aphrodite decided to torture her by setting her impossible tasks in love. But, to Aphrodite’s surprise, Psyche accomplished her tasks (with the help of animals) and Aphrodite was forced to reunite Psyche and Eros. The Psyche myth points to the need to do work  ( hers was menial work, but your’s may be psychological) to involve oneself in relating, rather than just go to relationship from a viewpoint of abstract harmony.

Michael Conneely,
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